When we talk about sexual assault and domestic violence, many people picture bruises or physical scars. But as Theresa Byiringiro, a Family Support Specialist at Child Saving Institute (CSI), reminds us, that’s only one piece of a much more complex, often hidden story.
During Sexual Assault Awareness Month, it’s vital to expand our collective understanding of what sexual violence looks like — especially when it’s taking place within an intimate relationship.
“Sexual abuse is about power and control,” she says. “And that’s at the very core of domestic and intimate partner violence.”
As Theresa explains, sexual assault and domestic violence isn’t always loud or visible. It may include coercion, threats, reproductive control or degrading treatment that is deeply traumatic but harder to detect from the outside. And even more importantly, it’s frequently underreported. This is the case particularly within marginalized communities, where social, cultural or systemic barriers further compound the trauma.
“There’s this misconception that relationship status implies consent, which is never the case,” Theresa adds.
“Consent should be stated every time. Whether you’re dating, married or have been together 20 years. Consent is never implied.”
For those worried that someone they love may be experiencing sexual assault and domestic violence in a relationship, it’s essential to understand that every survivor’s experience is unique. Signs may not always be visible.
In children and adolescents, there may be physical indicators like injuries or signs of sexually transmitted infections. Emotional or behavioral shifts — including isolation, mood swings or age-inappropriate sexual knowledge — can also be cause for concern. But Theresa reminds us that these signs aren’t always present, and their absence doesn’t mean abuse isn’t happening.
Ultimately, supporting a survivor begins with creating a safe, consistent, non-judgmental environment. One where they know they’ll be believed and supported, whether they’re ready to share their story now or later.
Working with survivors requires a trauma-informed approach that puts survivor autonomy at the forefront.
“At CSI, we focus on building rapport first,” Theresa shares. “We make sure the physical environment feels safe. We check for potential triggers. We validate their experiences and support their decisions, whether that means reporting, staying, leaving or simply being heard.”
In her role with CSI’s Family Empowerment Program, Theresa walks alongside survivors every day, ensuring they don’t have to navigate their trauma alone. The program offers free weekly empowerment groups and 1:1 case management support for survivors of domestic violence and their children. Specialists, like Theresa, work to help families heal, reconnect and regain a sense of control over their futures.
Theresa emphasizes that collaboration — across organizations, systems and neighbors — is essential to ensure that survivors encounter a net of support when seeking help, rather than more barriers. Whether you’re a community leader, a service provider or simply someone who cares, Theresa has this message:
“Listen and learn from survivors. Believe them. Support their initiatives. And continually educate yourself, especially on how abuse affects children and those in marginalized communities.”
If we want to create a safer, more supportive community, it starts with listening, learning and showing up — not just during Sexual Assault Awareness Month, but every day.
To learn more about how CSI’s Family Empowerment Program is helping survivors of sexual assault and domestic violence heal and reclaim their power, visit our website. We post group start dates on our website and update regularly, and we welcome referrals and self-enrollment alike.
